Sexual Intelligence: Why The Line Between Normal And Bad Sex Is Blurred

In a world where everybody is obsessed with being normal; things can get boring very fast. This includes sexual intercourse. With everybody more interested in how often a normal couple should have sex, how long a woman should take before having an orgasm, how long a man should last in bed and normal sex positions; the number of couples who are having bad sex is bound to rise with every passing day. This is because this is the wrong outlook on sex and when sex is approached wrongly, one can expect nothing other than reduced levels of intimacy and sexual pleasure.

Bad sex is common place for people who strive to carry themselves in certain fixed ways and do things in a planned way. This is not how good sexual intercourse is achieved. Most adults who try to have a normal sex life usually have sex at night, when they are tired. This is simply because that is how they have been brought up to believe life in a marriage or relationship should be. By making sex mechanical and programmed, people usually rob sex of its essential spirituality and thus denying themselves the endless possibilities that having good sex provides. In essence, they get the raw deal when it comes to the bedroom which is obviously bad sex.

Normal people who have normal sex usually set aside the best part of their days for going to work, Facebook, going out with their friends, watching TV, handling crises, raising kids and any other stuff other than spending this time exploring each other’s sexuality. They tend to set aside time within which they are not at their best for sexual intercourse and what people end up with is a sex life that is characterized by painful sex, lack of sexual satisfaction, awkwardness, self-consciousness in the bedroom, performance anxiety and most of the bedroom malfunctions such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. In essence: bad sex.

This usually results in reduced levels of intimacy and ultimately to problems both in the bedroom and the marriage or relationship. It usually results in reduced chemistry, not because it is nonexistent, but because the couples by trying to be normal, suffocate it. Essentially, by trying to have normal sex lives, people end up having bad sex. They then struggle to avoid sexual intercourse for as long as they can. Instead of experiencing sexual satisfaction and increased intimacy that they always dreamt of, they end up enduring sex. In attempt to be normal, they become part of the growing number of couples who always have bad sex.

The next time you think about doing what everybody else does, think again. This is because sex is more than physical mechanics and a little bit of spontaneity might go a long way when it comes to helping you tap into your reserves of spiritual sensuality.

Simon Stewart is a life coach, writer and author on how to stop premature ejaculation and last longer in bed. His efforts have been instrumental in helping thousands of men and women to have better sex and healthier relationships.

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